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<article schema_version="1.0" id="CC-064" source_sha256="bb676e65f8e55912e7f9ebfd946e574a13eaaaa4ad32235d12e56972b542f6b1"><title>What have I said about the days when I want to back down?</title><author>Craig Coffee</author><canonical_url>https://usedtostutter.com/when-you-dont-feel-like-practicing-speech</canonical_url><source_markdown xml:space="preserve"># What have I said about the days when I want to back down?

By [Craig Coffee](/craig-coffee)

Sometimes I back down too. I have said that directly. Some days I want to stay in bed. I know what it is like to be working hard and not see progress every time.

I have also been very forceful about going out and practicing. Both parts are in the way I talk about my own experience.

## The Sunday-night grocery recording

At the start of that video, I was talking about excuses: being tired, not feeling right, waiting for a better day. I was recording content daily at that point, which was a new challenge for me, and I still went into the grocery store to show how I had practiced.

I explained what I had done before going out, then found a little conversation with someone looking at cookies. It happened with the first person I spoke to in that demonstration.

I told the viewer I was proud of the trying and the commitment. There wasn&apos;t going to be a perfect day when all of it felt easy.

## What I did when I missed my earlier daily practice

In the account of [my Once-a-Day Challenge](/daily-stuttering-practice), I said I would make up a missed day by talking to two people the next day. I was relentless about working on my speech.

That is the commitment I described for myself. The later daily recording challenge was a different project, meant to help share what I had learned.

## The encouragement included difficult days

In the encouragement video, I said people face battles and keep going, and then I corrected myself: sometimes we all back down, including me. I said some days I wanted to lie in bed all day too.

I wanted the person listening to know I understood how hard it could be. Progress was not happening all the time. I had gone through a lot of failure before beginning to have some good speech, and even then it wasn&apos;t every moment.

## I also had to change what I did afterward

I was hard on myself. A difficult attempt could turn into another night of criticism. Learning kindness, forgiving mistakes and making time for something enjoyable had a place in my work too.

When something went a little better, I wanted to notice it. What had I managed to say? What had I said to myself afterward? [That small experience](/small-speaking-successes) could otherwise get lost while I judged the entire day.

So the fuller account contains determination, missed days, attempts that failed and times I rested. I kept learning and refining what I could use. Those are separate parts of what I have described going through.

I wanted a life in which I could talk more and enjoy it. [Trying again](/confidence-after-bad-stuttering-day) mattered to me, and so did how I treated myself through the process.

## Related answers

- [How did I practice while I was still stuttering?](/practicing-while-you-still-stutter)

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</source_markdown><sections><section id="reading-content" role="source_context" citation_url="https://usedtostutter.com/when-you-dont-feel-like-practicing-speech#reading-content"><source_markdown xml:space="preserve">Sometimes I back down too. I have said that directly. Some days I want to stay in bed. I know what it is like to be working hard and not see progress every time.

I have also been very forceful about going out and practicing. Both parts are in the way I talk about my own experience.

</source_markdown></section><section id="the-sunday-night-grocery-recording" role="source_context" citation_url="https://usedtostutter.com/when-you-dont-feel-like-practicing-speech#the-sunday-night-grocery-recording"><source_markdown xml:space="preserve">## The Sunday-night grocery recording

At the start of that video, I was talking about excuses: being tired, not feeling right, waiting for a better day. I was recording content daily at that point, which was a new challenge for me, and I still went into the grocery store to show how I had practiced.

I explained what I had done before going out, then found a little conversation with someone looking at cookies. It happened with the first person I spoke to in that demonstration.

I told the viewer I was proud of the trying and the commitment. There wasn&apos;t going to be a perfect day when all of it felt easy.

</source_markdown></section><section id="what-i-did-when-i-missed-my-earlier-daily-practice" role="source_context" citation_url="https://usedtostutter.com/when-you-dont-feel-like-practicing-speech#what-i-did-when-i-missed-my-earlier-daily-practice"><source_markdown xml:space="preserve">## What I did when I missed my earlier daily practice

In the account of [my Once-a-Day Challenge](/daily-stuttering-practice), I said I would make up a missed day by talking to two people the next day. I was relentless about working on my speech.

That is the commitment I described for myself. The later daily recording challenge was a different project, meant to help share what I had learned.

</source_markdown></section><section id="the-encouragement-included-difficult-days" role="source_context" citation_url="https://usedtostutter.com/when-you-dont-feel-like-practicing-speech#the-encouragement-included-difficult-days"><source_markdown xml:space="preserve">## The encouragement included difficult days

In the encouragement video, I said people face battles and keep going, and then I corrected myself: sometimes we all back down, including me. I said some days I wanted to lie in bed all day too.

I wanted the person listening to know I understood how hard it could be. Progress was not happening all the time. I had gone through a lot of failure before beginning to have some good speech, and even then it wasn&apos;t every moment.

</source_markdown></section><section id="i-also-had-to-change-what-i-did-afterward" role="source_context" citation_url="https://usedtostutter.com/when-you-dont-feel-like-practicing-speech#i-also-had-to-change-what-i-did-afterward"><source_markdown xml:space="preserve">## I also had to change what I did afterward

I was hard on myself. A difficult attempt could turn into another night of criticism. Learning kindness, forgiving mistakes and making time for something enjoyable had a place in my work too.

When something went a little better, I wanted to notice it. What had I managed to say? What had I said to myself afterward? [That small experience](/small-speaking-successes) could otherwise get lost while I judged the entire day.

So the fuller account contains determination, missed days, attempts that failed and times I rested. I kept learning and refining what I could use. Those are separate parts of what I have described going through.

I wanted a life in which I could talk more and enjoy it. [Trying again](/confidence-after-bad-stuttering-day) mattered to me, and so did how I treated myself through the process.

</source_markdown></section><section id="related-answers" role="navigation" citation_url="https://usedtostutter.com/when-you-dont-feel-like-practicing-speech#related-answers"><source_markdown xml:space="preserve">## Related answers

- [How did I practice while I was still stuttering?](/practicing-while-you-still-stutter)
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